Healthy Relationships

Healthy Relationships

 

Healthy Relationships Include:

  • Respect
  • Trust & Honesty
  • Healthy boundaries
  • Security & Comfort
  • Conflict resolution abilities
  • Support
  • Sexual consent
  • Communication
  • Making healthy decisions together
  • Encouraging appropriate friendships with others

 

Unhealthy Relationships

  • One in three teens in the US is a victim of abuse from a dating partner
  • Women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence
  • Nearly half (43%) of college women who are in a dating relationship experience abuse or violence
  • One in three college students have given their intimate partner their computer, email or social media passwords because they felt obligated to do so
  • One in six college women has been sexually abused in a dating relationship

 

Am I in an unhealthy relationship? Ask yourself, “Is my partner…”

  • not liked by my friends
  • texting and/or calling all the time
  • extremely jealous or possessive
  • trying to control what I do
  • trying to keep me from seeing or talking to friends and family
  • having mood swings, getting angry and yelling at me one minute but being sweet and apologetic the next
  • putting me down, calling me names and criticizing me
  • making me feel like I can’t do anything right and blaming me for problems
  • threatening to hurt me, my friends or family
  • threatening to hurt themselves because of me

 

How to support someone in a violent relationship:

  • If you have a friend who you believe is in an unhealthy relationship, reach out to them
  • Be supportive by listening to them and being patient
  • Let them know that this is NOT normal and NOT their fault
  • Focus on them, not the abuser
  • If they end the unhealthy relationship, continue to support them
  • If they do not end the unhealthy relationship, do not call the abuser out on social media or to others

 

Resources and more information on domestic violence can be found on www.loveisrespect.org.

Stalking

Stalking is any action that makes you feel afraid or in danger. These behavioral patterns escalate over time. We encourage you to reach out to someone or use the resources below if you believe you are being stalked.

 

What do stalkers do?

  • Repeatedly call or text, including hang-ups
  • Follow you and show up wherever you are
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, texts, emails, snapchats, photos etc.
  • Damage your home, car, or property
  • Monitor your phone or computer use
  • Use hidden cameras or GPS to track your actions
  • Drive by or hang out near your home, school, or work
  • Threaten to hurt you, your family, or your friends
  • Find information about you through online searches, social media, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting your friends or family
  • Any other actions that control, track, or frighten you

 

If you or someone you know is being stalked:

  • If you are in immediate danger, call 911
  • Take threats seriously
  • Contact a crisis hotline, victim services, agency, UNK Police, UNK Human Resources, or the UNK Women’s Center (see phone numbers at bottom of page)
  • Develop a safety plan
  • Do not communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you
  • Keep a log of the stalker’s actions including when they follow you, show up, contact you, or any other unsolicited interaction
  • Contact police
  • Tell family, friends, and your employers

 

Men, Women, and LBTQ can all be victims of stalking. Stalking resources including a stalking log can be found at: http://www.unk.edu/offices/human_resources/aaeo/respect/stalking.php

 

UNK Resources

  • UNK Women’s Center
    • (308) 865-8248 located in MSAB 158

For more information on these topics, contact the UNK Women’s Center.